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Displacement(?)
Sorry for sensitive topic
Kalo agan pernah baca tret ane di sini, nasibnya ya hubungan ane membaik (semua karena faktor miskomunikasi)

But now, i don't fvcking understand what my wife-to-be mind semenjak UTBK SBMPTN kedua kemarin

Awalnya hubungan kami baik-baik saja, tapi saat hari-H UTBK kedua, dia seperti ada sedikit displacement (i can't verdict if she's really got a displacement because i don't have any background in psychology), she didn't reply my chat, bahkan sempat terlontar kata "putus" dari dia even though ane batalkan.
Dan karena displacement tersebut, hubungan kami mulai garing, dia aktif tapi balas chat lama, unggah status bernada "putus cinta", bahkan dia sudah mulai "waving white flag" atas hubungan ini

Possible cause dia mengalami displacement karena multiple stresses:
1. Lokasi UTBK di UIN (Univ. Islam Negeri), dan saat bulan Ramadhan, so every women no-matter-who-you-are MUST wearing hijab, kami punya kecemasan yang serupa-namun-tak-sama: calon bini ane cemas kalo dia berdosa karena berhijab, dan ane cemas seandainya dia muallaf because i know, some of her big family are converts/muallaf, except herself, some of her cousins, her bro, her parents, her grannies (from her dad and her mom), and some of her uncles/aunts, dan dia (calon istri ane, red) pernah ikut ritual agama tetangga saat kelas 6 SD (puasa di bulan Ramadhan, red)
2. Kami udah JANJI buat satu kampus di bilangan Depok, tapi keluarga dia bilang tidak boleh keluar daerah Riau, even she's so fvcking tired to convince her families
3. She (un)intentionally sending picture of her wearing hijab (walaupun mukanya ditutup, but i know it's her dari sedikit motif kemejanya), jadi ane omelin karena dia melanggar kesepakatan (No sending picture of you wearing hijab everywhere)


The question is:
1. Apakah orang yang lagi displacement kita biarin dulu sampai emosinya reda?
2. How can i convince her families so she can go to Depok dan kuliah dengan ane?
3. How can i save my relationship dari badai yang lumayan parah seperti ini?
Diubah oleh bzntm 17-05-2019 06:58
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