5 Signs that Shes into You
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Lets be honest: Sometimes its tough to tell if your dates just being nice or if shes really into you. So if you need help sussing out your lady loves true feelings, check out these pointers from Greg Hartley, former Army Special Forces interrogator and author of I Can Read You Like a Book: How to Spot the Messages and Emotions People Are Really Sending With Their Body Language. Who knew your dates smile, complexion and even where she places her handbag can reveal whether she considers you friend or boyfriend material? Read on!
Five signs your date is into you
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1. She tilts her head
When a woman sees and feels especially comfortable with a man, she will tilt her head, Hartley says. A tilt in any direction right, left or down are all signs that shes interested in getting to know you better say, over another date.
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2. She takes a sip when you take a sip
When a woman is drawn to a guy, shell instinctively mirror his actions, Hartley says. While men do this, too, women are more likely than men to first begin the copying. What should you look for? You might notice she will shift her body in the same direction as yours or take your lead for behavioral changes like, picking up a glass to drink or blinking her eyes repeatedly if youre doing so, he suggests. If you want to test her, lean forward and see if she comes closer, too.
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3. She twirls her hair
Since the beginning of time, a womans hair has been celebrated as a symbol of her beauty and power. And its true today, says Hartley: If your date begins twirling or playing with her hair while talking to you, it is a good sign shes into you and subconsciously trying to attract you.
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4. She gets a glow
While blushing often means embarrassment, dont assume that her rosy cheeks are an indication of discomfort. When a woman is attracted to someone, blood flows to her face, causing her cheeks to get redder, Hartley explains. And if your date is smitten, he adds, her lips and even eyelids will get fuller, too.
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5. Her pupils dilate
While your gaze is fixed on her, pay particular attention to her pupils, advises Hartley. When a woman is attracted to a man, her pupils will dilate, he notes. Essentially, the body does this in order to allow itself to take in more of a good thing.
and five signs your date is not into you
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1. She crosses her arms
Did she assume the angry librarian stance? When a woman on a date places her hands in front of her body especially if they are crossed she is closing herself off from the man, Hartley notes. If you get this red flag, you dont stand a chance
and she wants you to know it. Men are not nearly as perceptive as women, so even if shes not consciously aware of it, a woman knows her body language needs to be very loud, Hartley explains. In this instance, that body language reads loud and clear.
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2. She places her bag between you two
When I ask male friends how a blind date went, step-by-step, and they sayshe put her bag on the table, I always know thats a bad sign, Hartley says. If your date places her purse a real and physical barrier between the two of you, shes showing she wants to create distance, he says. Not a good sign.
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3. She speaks faster than an auctioneer
So she seems to love talking to you? Before you start celebrating, note the speed of her small talk. Romantic conversation does not occur at the same speed as business conversation, Hartley says. Conversation between two people who are attracted typically slows to about three-quarter speed and softens in tone. In fact, most emotional conversation with the exception of when it is very hostile is at a slowed cadence. That said, she may be nervous early in your first date, and her nerves can cause her to spit her sentences out in rapid-fire succession. But if by the end of the evening shes still going at a rapid rate, consider it a clue that she just wants to be friends at best.
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4. She offers you a chin-up smile
Though its tempting to interpret any old smile as a sign of interest, all smiles are not created equal. Smiles can say a lot: Im polite, Im crazy about you, and, believe it or not, I cant stand you. The secret to decoding what her smile really means? Its all in the chin placement. A woman who gives you a relaxed, chin-down soft smile is smitten and wants you to dig her back, Hartley explains. A full-on toothpaste grin or stiff and polite smile both of which generally involve the chin raised up mean either, I like you as a friend or I wanna get out of here!
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5. She strokes her neck
If your dates telling you she agrees that you should get together again, thats a good sign, right? Maybe, says Hartley. Her body language may be the key to the real truth, he says. If a woman is gently stroking her neck when telling you this, it may be a sign that shes interested, but it is also known to be a sign of lying. To figure out which message shes sending, consider the aforementioned shes not into you signals. If shes also giving you the raised-chin smile and speaking to you over a giant purse, you may want to move on to your next prospect.
The above articles quoted from Chelsea Kaplan, deputy editor of [url]www.thefamilygroove.com[/url] and regularly appears as a guest on XM Radios Broad Minded. Her blog, Im Somebodys Mother? can be found at [url]www.chelseakaplan.com[/url]. For the other side of this story, read 5 signs hes into you.
Article courtesy of Happen magazine, [url]www.happenmag.com[/url].
